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ECLIPSE
Igniting family violence awareness through the specialist lens of lived experience


ECLIPSES Intentionality of Coercive Control Spoke and Wheel Model
For a long time, I've been wanting to create a visual representation of the realities of the intentionality of coercive control.
Unfortunately, coercive control is still actively mispositioned in practice response as an isolated, non-physical, often minimised dynamic, and as a direct result of this, lethality and risk indicators are missed

Debbs Murray
5 days ago2 min read


DISCLAIMER - Disturbing Content Regarding Suicide and Family Violence
Man charged with manslaughter and coercive control charges after driving a woman to suicide through a targeted campaign of domestic abuse

Debbs Murray
Mar 121 min read


THE HAGUE CONVENTION - is it fit for purpose in family violence cases? Case example.
Trapped overseas: Why some parents can’t move home with their kids
If you require information or support about the Hague Convention - please go to an Aotearoa New Zealand website - Hague Collective | Hague Convention New Zealand

Debbs Murray
Mar 122 min read


NEW LEGISLATION - Victims of Family Violence (Strengthening Legal Protections) Legislation Act 2025
Important new legislation to recognise and reduce the incidence of the Family Court system being used to perpetrate further acts of post relationship coercive control.
Acts of court systemic coercion is often the only way for an abuser to retain control over a primary victim post separation. Court and Litigation abuse is merely another tool in the coercive control kete.
This legislation recognises this abuse and highlights the need for change

Debbs Murray
Mar 51 min read


An interview with Debbs Murray on coercive control
In this 10-minute interview with Te Puna Aonui, ECLIPSE Founder Debbs Murray discusses coercive control and the work of ECLIPSE.

Braden Clark
Jun 13, 20251 min read


Under His Command Documentary
A month or so ago, I was incredibly lucky to sit with someone I admire deeply, John Campbell, a truly humble, gentle and real human. The...

Debbs Murray
Apr 30, 20252 min read


Primary Victim or Victim-Survivor? Context Matters
What's the difference between primary victim and victim-survivor? How do these terms influence practice?

Braden Clark
Apr 8, 20258 min read


Our submission on the Evidence (Giving Evidence of Family Violence) Amendment Bill
Read ECLIPSE's submission on the Evidence (Giving Evidence of Family Violence) Amendment Bill

Braden Clark
Dec 17, 20241 min read
Shining a Light: Disabilities and Family Violence
Family violence is a pervasive issue in Aotearoa, impacting countless lives. For our disabled community, the situation is even more dire.

Debbs Murray
Nov 22, 20242 min read


Walking on Eggshells: Understanding Coercive Control
This is a really powerful and informative 16 minute video of coercive control, what it looks like, feels like and the kinds of behaviours to

Debbs Murray
Sep 20, 20241 min read


Family Violence Messages in a Minute - Protection Orders
Learn how Protection Orders can help keep you safe from family violence. #FamilyViolenceAwareness #ProtectionOrders #ECLIPSE

Debbs Murray
Jun 24, 20242 min read


Family Violence Messages in a Minute - Animal Abuse
Pets are also victims of family violence. Learn how to protect them with Debbs Murray’s advice. #FamilyViolenceAwareness #PetProtection

Debbs Murray
Jun 17, 20241 min read


Family Violence Messages in a Minute - Safety Planning
Safety planning is crucial for those in danger. Learn how to help with Debbs Murray’s tips. #FamilyViolenceAwareness #SafetyPlan #ECLIPSE

Debbs Murray
Jun 10, 20242 min read


Family Violence Messages in a Minute - What to do - Non-crisis response
Building trust with family violence victims takes time. Learn how to provide non-judgemental support with Debbs Murray. #FamilyViolence

Debbs Murray
Jun 3, 20242 min read


Family Violence Messages in a Minute - What to do - Crisis Response
Learn how to respond to family violence crises with Debbs Murray's expert advice. #FamilyViolenceAwareness #CrisisResponse #ECLIPSE

Debbs Murray
May 27, 20242 min read


Family Violence Messages in a Minute: The Brutality of Non-Physical Violence
Discover the unseen impact of non-physical violence. Watch Debbs Murray discuss emotional abuse, coercive control, and more.

Debbs Murray
May 20, 20241 min read


Family Violence Messages in a Minute: Resistance is a survival strategy
In this video, Debbs Murray discusses how resistance is a survival strategy

Debbs Murray
May 13, 20243 min read


Family Violence Messages in a Minute: Don't always look for conflict
Check out our latest Family Violence Messages in a Minute video. Debbs Murray talks about the unseen aspects of family violence

Debbs Murray
May 6, 20242 min read


Family Violence Messages in a Minute - Survival strategies – Self-blame and minimisation
Not disclosing family violence, including minimisation and self-blame are normal aspects of family violence. Learn more in this video.

Debbs Murray
Apr 29, 20242 min read


Family Violence - Messages in a Minute - Resistance
Family Violence Messages in a Minute - this short video is in relation to resistance.

Debbs Murray
Apr 22, 20242 min read
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